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Why wear your baby?

Have you ever tried to hang up wet washing, make dinner or tidy up, while hugging your baby to one shoulder? It is tricky, and tiring, to live your life one handed, when things still need to get done. But putting your baby down when they want to be close to you doesn’t work either. There is a solution; ‘wearing’ your baby! (Want to cut to the chase? Here’s your ‘why slings are amazing’ free PDF).

If you are interested in ways to keep your baby calm and happy, while giving yourself greater freedom as a new parent, you will enjoy this great chat with baby wearing trail blazer, Irma Jager.

The idea of wearing my baby in a sling seemed a little strange, when I was introduced to the idea. A friend grave me a sling (a 4 metre piece of fabric), and another friend offered to come and help me learn to wind my baby and me up in it. I indulged her, but assumed I probably wouldn’t use the sling much. I was wrong. Baby wearing was awesome.

Baby in sling











Wearing our babies only feels strange to start with because we don’t live in a place where it is the norm, and we are culturally trained to see strollers as the normal way to move our baby about. But a stroller is just one way, and may be perfect for you at times. However, when push comes to shove, why push a crying baby down the street when you can comfort them right next to you in a sling. I still had a stroller, (it was great for carrying shopping), and when my baby was a bit bigger they often rode in it. However I always had my sling tucked under the stroller in case my baby wanted to be close to me… so handy to have options!


You may not feel the need for a sling, if you have an easy going baby who sleeps peacefully and is typically content. However, if you have a baby who just seems happier to be with you, and you want to bake a cake and eat it too, (while wearing your baby), give slings a go. See what it feels like for you and your baby. Like everything here at The Birth Whisperer, don’t just believe me, or what anyone else says, do what feels right for you.


Important notes: The slings we discussed in this interview are upright slings, with baby facing towards Mama, with full support from the base of their bottom up to under babies thighs. Do not ever use a ‘bag sling’, which does pose a risk to your baby’s breathing.


For more info on slings check out: .


Wishing you a wonderfully snuggly time with your baby in the weeks and months after they are born,



PS Remember to get your ‘why slings are amazing’ free PDF).


Amazing ‘Twin-Lotus-C-section’ Birth Story

What happens if you want a totally natural birth, and then a few weeks beforehand you find out that it just ain’t going to happen. For many reasons, women discover that ‘au natural’ is out and surgery is how their sweet baby is going to enter the world.

Some mothers are able to easily adjust their expectations and take the new plan in their stride, especially if the safety of their baby is truly at risk. But many women find it hard to transition to a birth plan that has taken birth dreams and thrown them out the window.
If you can relate to this scenario, or if you are interested in having an empowering surgical birth, or having an empowering birth full-stop, this interview is for you.

Hera’s story provides insight into when it is a time to ask tough questions, research, dig deeper and make change happen, and when it is time to stop trying so hard, to let go and be supported by a bigger process. This story is all about the balance between surrender and ownership in birth.

You may know ahead of time that your baby is going to get some medical help on it’s way into the world, or you may not. You may be certain that your baby will be born naturally. Wherever you sit, it is worth taking Hera’s advice: briefly contemplate the possibility that your baby may be born with medical assistance. Then whatever happens, you can prepare to respect and celebrate yourself and to have an awesome first meeting with your precious baby.

Perhaps you know someone, or you are that someone, who is attempting to make peace with a birth plan that isn’t the ‘dream birth’, for example, a breech, twin birth or induction. If so, sink your heart and mind into this transformative story and find your own way to a beautiful birth.

Hera’s story is one of my all-time favourite birth stories, (OK, I have a few!), because through it I learnt a lot about what makes a birth amazing.
Being respected, listened to, and being honoured in your requests all help you to own your birth fully. This is what makes the difference, however your babies are born.

Hera and babies

Hera and babies


The whole family

The whole family


The well-cured lotus-birth placenta


Now I would deeply appreciate hearing your response to this interview. Have you experienced a time in birth or daily life, when you have struggled to make something a certain way, and in the end it was easier to ‘let go and go with the flow’?

Tell us about your moment of  letting go and how it helped you.

With warmest thoughts and best wishes to all the Mamas in the world birthing today,


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