When your first birth was terrifying, how do you go from never wanting to give birth again to saying yes to another baby?
After a traumatic first birth, Amy was left with significant fear of birth, of being unsupported, and of the hospital where she gave birth. She was adamant she’d never birth again. Eventually, after divorce and finding a lovely new man, she realised she wanted another baby. During her pregnancy she consciously prepared herself for an improved birth experience. I skyped with Amy as she sat on a gorgeous Australian beach. If you can handle the breezy sounds and occasional passing helicopter, you will love her story as much as I did.
What can you learn from Amy? You’ll probably gain your own insights as you watch and listen, but here are a few things I picked up:
- Calm birth (and other variations of HypnoBirthing) are not necessarily for everyone. If you’re a noisy, talkative person who is not relaxed by silence, this model may not support you. Perhaps you’ll be better off swaying on a birth ball, rapping along to hip-hop music, like Amy did in her second, noisier, birth.
- Choose people you trust to be with you on your birthing day. Ask yourself: “Will this person listen to me and do what I ask?”
- Having a doula is a great move if you want a supportive presence, who will stay with you and advocate for you through the whole birth, including interventions and transferring to another birth place. Amy said her doula was like her watch dog, and helped her feel emotionally safe.
- Read positive, empowering birth stories during pregnancy and right before birth.
- It’s not the length of your birth, it’s how you feel.
- A big baby does not necessarily mean a long, hard labour.
- If you like to be informed, educate yourself about birth; Places, providers and options.
Wishing you a beautiful, and even fun birth (imagine that!),